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Sinclair Gibson \u201921 (left) and Haley Shadburn \u201924 (right) make friendship bracelets for Neighborhood Focus during the Heller Service Corps Day of Service Fall 2021. \/ Jeremy Fleming<\/p><\/div>\n

When Evan Thomes \u201921 came to visit Furman as a high school senior in 2017, he was still undecided about where he would attend college. Samford and Wake Forest were still high on his list, and he wasn\u2019t ready to commit to any school just yet.<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when the Furman admissions office decided to use its ace card, which was to send Thomes and his father over to meet Nancy Cooper, coordinator of the Heller Service Corps. Cooper had been at the heart of the award-winning service program for three decades and was legendary for the instant rapport she could establish with students.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBy the end of that meeting, I had decided I would be coming to Furman,\u201d says Thomes, who started the \u201cBlessings in a Backpack\u201d program at the university and served as a leader in the Heller program. \u201cMiss Nancy is a very special person, and I knew she could be the mentor I was looking for.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

What did Cooper do in that meeting? \u201cEvan told me he had started a program in high school that provided food bags for schoolchildren to take home on the weekend,\u201d Cooper says. \u201cI told him if you come to Furman, you can start the same program here, and I\u2019ll put you in charge of it.\u201d That was quite a promise since it would make Thomes the only first-year student in Heller\u2019s history to serve as a coordinator.<\/span><\/p>\n

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2018 Valentine’s Dance \/ Jeremy Fleming<\/p><\/div>\n

Miss Nancy, as the students call her, knows how to get things done, which is why the Heller Service Corps is one of the most effective and respected student service organizations in the country. Each year, more than 1,200 students work with 62 community agencies to meet the needs of people throughout the Upstate. She knew what a student like Thomes could do for the Heller program and what Furman could do for him.<\/span><\/p>\n

But getting things done only begins to describe Cooper\u2019s many gifts. Connie Carson, Furman\u2019s vice president for student life, describes Cooper as an \u201cinviter\u201d and \u201cconnector\u201d who can adapt to almost any situation. She cares deeply about people, and she enjoys being around as many of them as possible at all times. And, not incidentally, Carson says, she is \u201cwicked smart.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Cooper has had a number of supervisors over the years, and Carson told them all the same thing. \u201cThe first thing you need to realize is that you don\u2019t supervise Nancy,\u201d she says with a laugh. \u201cYou coordinate with Nancy, you collaborate with Nancy, but you need to understand you\u2019re not actually in charge.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Are there students struggling to find their way at Furman? Send them to Miss Nancy. What about first-generation students who are having trouble adjusting to life on a college campus? Let Miss Nancy speak with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Barrett Taylor \u201921 M \u201922 and Cooper during the 2019 Valentine’s Dance \/ Jeremy Fleming<\/p><\/div>\n

\u201cNancy goes with the flow and lets the students be themselves,\u201d Carson says. \u201cShe allowed them to co-create what they wanted to be involved in and how they wanted to make a difference.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

But perhaps more than anything else, Miss Nancy is fun. You\u2019d be hard pressed to find a day when she is not smiling and laughing. She regularly hijacks admissions tours that come through the Trone Center so she can liven things up a bit for prospective students and their parents. Carson says the Heller office has to be the happiest place on campus.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cooper persuaded Carson to dress up as Elf on the Shelf for a Christmas celebration in the Trone Center and talked her into taking a pie in the face to raise money for Heller. Carson swears that not even President Elizabeth Davis could persuade her to do those things.<\/span><\/p>\n

But whatever good things Cooper has done for Furman, she says it is nothing compared to what Furman has done for her. She went to work part time at the university in early 1988 after her husband, David, was forced to go on total disability. Cooper had been a stay-at-home mother with their two children before that.<\/span><\/p>\n

She held three different, eight-week positions at Furman, none of which paid very well or offered benefits. She prayed every day that a full-time job would open at Furman, and her prayers were answered in May of that year when she was hired as the assistant to Betty Alverson, founder and director of the Collegiate Educational Service Corps.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Selection Sunday during the 2023 NCAA Men’s Basketball Tournament \/ Nathan Gray<\/p><\/div>\n

She wouldn\u2019t realize it until later, but Cooper\u2019s trials at home provided a perspective that would serve her well in her new position.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cOur family had always loved giving and helping people,\u201d she says, \u201cbut I had never realized how difficult it can be to receive.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Cooper became director of the Collegiate Educational Service Corps when Alverson retired in 2000. The program was permanently endowed in 2002 and named in honor of Greenville community leaders Max and Trude Heller, which lifted the organization into a whole new realm of assistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThat gave us the financial resources to do some things we had never done before,\u201d Cooper says. There is much Cooper is going to miss about Furman after she retires, but the students win this competition hands down. They made coming to work every day worthwhile, and they never failed to amaze Cooper with their hard work and effort to help others. She kept boxes of Kleenex in the Heller office because she knew how students would be affected by what they witnessed in the community.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Trude Heller and Cooper during the 2019 Transfer Luncheon. Heller, who died in 2021, was the inspiration and namesake with her late husband Max Heller for the Heller Service Corps. The couple, who had known each other in Austria before fleeing the Nazis, were pillars in Greenville civic life and became deeply involved with Furman. Max Heller died in 2011. \/ Even Talbert<\/p><\/div>\n

\u201cIt was never about building resumes,\u201d Cooper says. \u201cThey do it out of the goodness of their hearts. I watched students come into Heller and have their lives totally changed.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The students also pulled Cooper through one of the darkest periods of her life when her husband unexpectedly died in 2008. She didn\u2019t want to talk about it, and she tried to pretend she wasn\u2019t hurting as badly as she was, but the students understood and they wouldn\u2019t let her go down that road by herself.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThey were so loving and kind,\u201d Cooper says. \u201cThey would put a book on my desk they thought I might like. They left sweet notes. \u2018Do you have dinner plans tonight? Can we come over?\u2019\u201d For 10 years, one alum sent flowers on the date her husband died.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cooper\u2019s relationship with her students doesn\u2019t end when they leave Furman. Barrett Taylor \u201921 M \u201922, a fifth-grade teacher in Greenville County who was Heller\u2019s student director in 2020-21, still talks with Cooper by phone every morning and meets her for dinner every Monday night.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cMiss Nancy is an incredible listener,\u201d Taylor says. \u201cShe always makes you feel like <\/span>you\u2019re the most important person in the world, even though she probably has 5,000 other things she needs to be doing.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

There was only one thing at Furman that Cooper could never embrace \u2014 Commencement. The first time she saw the seniors graduate and move on, the following week was like a wake. It was so bad she began scheduling her vacations the week after Commencement. It was better not to be around to experience that particular emptiness on campus.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, when will Cooper officially retire? The day before the 2024 Commencement, of course.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhen the seniors walk across the stage and finish their time at Furman, I\u2019m going with them,\u201d she says.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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